Losing It: A taboo-busting guide to sex and relationships that debunks the myths you were taught at school.

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Aside from this, the book covered some good topics including ideas of consent, incels, asexuality and fear around sex but I have read other books that cover these much better. Some of the data that are collected include the number of visitors, their source, and the pages they visit anonymously. The author skillfully interweaves her own stories with the stories of people they interviewed in the broader context of patriarchal and capitalist power. If you feel this doesn’t apply to you, that is hopefully because you grew up in an environment where you were exposed to healthy ideas around masculinity.

Reassuringly, she gets decent advice in the comments – namely that such an experience might make her mental health even worse. Coincidentally, the only year when my school did a class (4 hours) on sex-ed, I was studying abroad so I never got to take the class. Sophia is delighted with the reception of her book, saying, “It’s been a whirlwind spring and summer and I couldn’t be happier.

This book is a well written, non-patronising and personal insight into all the things I wish I had been properly taught about sooner and the things I’m desperate for young people of all genders to know about now. Every time they needed milk, or butter, or a beer, they’d see where they ranked; more names meant more prestige.

The book hits a lot of topics that are important and myths that are still deeply imbedded in our society. While the world’s largest religions usually demand chastity for men and women, there is a catch; in lived practice, religious ideology is often responsible for demanding virginity more from women than of men. If we want sexual 'freedom', then it's essential we identify the ways in which sex myths continue to be upheld in the 21st century. In Losing It Sophia Smith Galer investigates the immense power that sex myths continue to hold over our lives, and speaks to people who are especially affected by them.We use cookies to personalise content and ads, to provide social media features and to analyse our traffic. The Qur’an also speaks of a paradise where good Muslim men will be able to enjoy maidens who are ‘chaste, restraining their glances, whom no man or jinn before them has touched’ [55:56]. For all ebook purchases, you will be prompted to create an account or login with your existing HarperCollins username and password. How can I read a section such as the one below and have no way to look up who performed these studies, when and how the hypothesis was framed? Thanks to inadequate sex education, many of us are finishing school knowing more about STDs and condoms than the bigger sexual picture – our own physicality, pleasure and consent.

Global unemployment is increasing, and just before the pandemic hit, trends were suggesting that the number of men who hadn’t had sex in the past year had increased threefold; it is likely that spending longer periods of time in education and living with your parents is having an impact on young men’s ability to perform virility. A number of small surveys by dating sites consistently find that straight men are more likely to be open to date unemployed partners than the other way around. You have been one of the pioneer’s for using TikTok to communicate your journalism, why did you decide to start using this medium? That's why we need more robust sex education programs at school from an early age because sex education is not just about sex but also about the changes in a body during puberty, dysfunctions, anxieties, and traumas. They may be used by those companies to build a profile of your interests and show you relevant adverts on other sites.It complains about the fact that queerness gets ignored in sex ed then continues to mostly ignore it in her book. There was another, different response to Reno Omokri’s tweet, hidden among its many replies: ‘And what about men … if men have had premarital sex, what makes them worthy of marrying a virgin? This chapter, and the following two on the hymen and tightness, paint a portrait of a world in which the mythical status of female virginity continues to negatively affect women, and men, around the world. Policing female sexuality and endorsing concepts like virginity usually go hand in hand, and even those of us who no longer have to bear the weight of this sort of performed sexlessness may still experience the vestigial consequences of an era that once punished us too.

As heterosexual women, my friends and I would have to operate in its orbit, sometimes mimicking it, sometimes hiding from it. Known for her stories on digital culture and religion, Sophia became one of the first UK journalists to pioneer the use of TikTok in newsgathering and storytelling, and in 2020 was named as a Voice of Change by the platform, who identified her as one of country's top 100 creators. An urgent, myth-busting book that dismantles sex misinformation and reimagines sexual freedom for today.She doesn't shy away from areas others have avoided or misinformed on and she goes into quite a lot of detail. Many countries around the world still hold majority populations that condemn premarital sex, and women’s sexual freedom with it.