Requited Unrequited Love: An Enemies to Lovers Marriage of Convenience Romance

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According to psychologist Berit Brogaard, crushes become more “valuable” when they’re unattainable and some people can get lost in this pattern over and over again.

Do you feel guilty for being angry? Do you try to repress your anger so it goes away? If you’re like most people, then you probably do. Have gotten inspired by a few BL dramas (some are also from my own ideas/characters) I've watched recently and wrote some poems, hope you enjoy. Are you crafting grand gestures for your loved one, but being given the cold shoulder? This could be a key sign that your romantic interest is not interested in you. 2. You’re always finding ways to spend time around them Understanding what your strengths are will make you believe in yourself and everything you have to offer. I have had to deal with the loss of a number of very close friends in recent years. Here are the key steps I have taken:Once you feel like you’ve processed the pain of rejection and you’re ready to move on, it’s time to try some new things. The steps above help you to deal with the experience of unrequited love. As you move through these steps, you’ll start to feel an urge to move on. Everyone at some point in life have faced rejection and failure, it is part of the process to self-realisation.”– Lailah Gifty Akita 6. Talk it out with someone who sees it from your perspective Unrequited love can certainly become “requited love.” People fall in and out of love. It’s possible that the object of your affection might not even know that you’re interested in them in a romantic way. Identifying unrequited love,” Egel says, “requires your ability to be honest with yourself about what’s going on.” This involves paying attention to the other person’s signals, even though accepting how they feel might be tough. Using what you know about them to get closer

Try practicing mindful acceptance of all of these feelings. Accept them as they come up without attaching judgment to them. Just notice them and let them pass. Journaling about them as you notice them (even the ones that hurt) can help, too. …and then distract yourself You might think that this is lame but what will really help you is sitting down with yourself and writing down on a piece of paper your greatest strengths. You also might want to write a list of things you’re grateful for, especially if you’re feeling down. 16. Consume to healIf someone doesn’t like you for who you are, move on. I guarantee that someone will love you without demanding you change. 2. Communicate your feelings Unrequited love can look different across different scenarios. But Melissa Stringer, LPC, describes a key sign of unrequited love as “intense longing that spans a significant timeframe and involves little to no reciprocation from your love interest.” You feel ashamed, like there’s something wrong with you because the feelings aren’t returned. Self-doubt creeps in. This pattern usually begins with hopefulness as you form strategies geared toward igniting a romantic relationship,” she explains. But when these attempts fail, you might be left with “feelings of rejection and accompanying emotions, including sadness, anger, resentment, anxiety, and shame.” Struggling to get them off your mind Often times, we want to be in a relationship because we don’t value ourselves. Therefore, we look for a relationship because we don’t want to be alone and we’re looking for validation. Or we don’t want to deal with our own issues, so we distract ourselves by having someone else.

Being angry when love goes wrong can actually be a powerful force for good in your life — as long as you harness it properly. To learn how to do this watch our free masterclass on turning anger into your ally . I never expected you to love me, I didn't see any reason that you should. I never thought myself very lovable. I was thankful to be allowed to love you and I was enraptured when now and then I thought you were pleased with me or when I noticed in your eyes a gleam of good-humored affection. I tried not to bore you with my love; I knew I couldn't afford to do that and I was always on the lookout for the first sign that you were impatient with my affection." — W. Somerset Maugham, "The Painted Veil" 13. "Love may have the longest arms, but it can still fall short of an embrace." ― Megan McCafferty, "Charmed Thirds" 14. "Why should I blame her that she filled my days / With misery, or that she would of late / Have taught to ignorant men most violent ways, / Or hurled the little streets upon the great, / Had they but courage equal to desire?" ― William Butler Yeats, "No Second Troy" 15. "Too many of us are hung up on what we don't have, can't have, or won't ever have. We spend too much energy being down, when we could use that same energy — if not less of it — doing, or at least trying to do, some of the things we really want to do." ― Terry McMillan, "Disappearing Acts" These steps in dealing with unrequited love will help you to love yourself more deeply and build your confidence. This makes you more attractive to others.To head this off, be honest from the beginning. It will save everyone a tremendous amount of heartache along the way. 3. You can’t force love

You might even consider trying to date them instead to see what happens. But if you’re certain you don’t have any romantic interest, this may complicate things for you both. Even if you haven’t experienced unrequited love, offering kindness until the sting of rejection fades could help the other person take comfort in your existing friendship. Make your rejection clear Right now, you are probably placing a lot of your value in the hands of someone who has just rejected you, but in time you’ll see that it was just part of the recovery process. 14. What is the reason you wanted a romantic relationship in the first place? Research shows that we feel an emotional wound in the same way as a physical injury. Emotional pain activates the same part of your brain as physical pain. When people are in love, they want to spend time together. If you find that you’re engineering ways to keep bumping into someone, but they aren’t returning the favor, it might be unrequited love. 3. You get jealous when they spend time with othersIf you sense some confusing signals, like flirty behavior or affectionate gestures, from the person you’re interested in, talking about those things can help. It’s not always easy to interpret someone’s behavior, so you may not know exactly how they feel unless they tell you. Now that you’ve identified the key signs of unrequited love, it’s important to take steps in dealing with the pain. If they’ve made it clear they aren’t interested in any romantic involvement, drop the subject of romance. Continuing to pursue them or hoping they’ll have a change of heart may eventually frustrate them, damage your friendship, and cause you more pain. Feel too overwhelming? It’s also perfectly fine to just talk to a trusted friend about what you’re going through. Sometimes, just getting these feelings off your chest can offer relief. …but don’t linger