Dame Products 83586: Sex Pillo Indigo

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If you're shy about receiving, you can try different ways to get comfortable, like turning the lights off. Another downside is that Pillo only comes in one color, indigo. It happens to clash with just about everything in my cream and mauve decor. While Dame touts Pillo as a "master of disguise" that "blends right into your bedroom," I don't find that to be the case for me. That's not a total loss — I'll live, and continue to use Pillo as it's so much fun — but I'll be holding out for more neutral colors. Sexpert Kenneth Play told Men's Health to start with the flat of your tongue, as it covers more surface area. If they're into receiving pleasure right on their clit, though, they may love when you use the tip of your tongue. Know that neither you nor your partner are perfect, but you don't need to be to experience pleasure. "Each partner will be different and like softer, harder, longer, shorter, fingers, vibrators, lube, or dry — simply just different touch," said Reed. Don't jump straight to cunnilingus, said Mintz, as it's important to build arousal with other activities first, like making out or breast play. You can warm up by caressing and kissing your partner on the way down. Kissing inner thighs before moving to the actual genitals is also a good move, said Engle. During and after the act

Not pillow soft, but that's okay

I believe any couple can find at least one use for Pillo. It's an easy, low-tech way to have more pleasurable sex and to get that much closer to your partner. Though you can use it to nap according to Dame, Pillo doesn't feel like a moldable down pillow. It's firmer and actually made of the same material as the Nugget: polyurethane foam. Further, it's slanted like a ramp. It's 18 inches wide, 15 inches long, and 7 inches at its tallest height. My partner and I can lie on the widest part of Pillo no problem.

There are also pillows shaped like ramps (which you can drape your body across), mounts (which you can hump and grind), cylinders, domes, and wedge-ramp combinations. Almost all are designed with removable covers you can throw in the wash, and some have loops that secure handcuffs and built-in holders for sex toys. Notably, any of these pillows is excellent for both partner and solo play. They expand your “depth-of-penetration options, allowing different angles of reach, so you don’t have to sit up to switch between vibrator modes,” Dr. Queen says. The best sex pillows Set boundaries, like around if or when the receiver wants to stop. This is imperative if the receiver is an abuse survivor, Mintz added. Always ask before adding anything new in, like a finger or a toy, but don't change too much at once either. Make one change at a time and see how your partner reacts, said Mintz. You can use typical sleep pillows, but you might find better support with firmer material and a different shape. This is partially why the children's couch Nugget became an online craze for "after dark" use; not only is the material more supportive, but they come in innovative designs perfect for getting it on. The good news is, there's no one way you "should" go down on someone — but there are important steps. Three sex experts laid out how to best perform cunnilingus, from communication to foreplay. Let's talk about oral sex, baby

What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow?

Great sex is all about hitting the right angles, but finding them can take some experimentation. That’s why a sex pillow is game-changing: These cushions are designed to support and direct the body, opening you up to a wider range of feel-good positions. We spoke to experts to figure out how to shop for sex pillows—and which ones will set you up for success. What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow? Pillo is also immensely helpful for tribbing, the sexual act of rubbing vulvas together or rubbing the vulva on another body part, like a thigh. We've used it for a missionary-style position, and also for a scissoring-style tribbing (arranging ourselves like, well, colliding scissors). With Pillo, we spend less time getting into position, and more time having fun in said position. I have no doubt that the more my partner and I use Pillo, the more variety we'll discover. King explained how sex pillows can help with a variety of positions, including missionary, from behind, and rider-on-top. During the former two, the pillow props up the receiving partner's hips and pelvis to more easily achieve deep penetration. For the latter, a pillow can help the rider bounce more comfortably. If either partner is concerned about cleanliness, take a shower beforehand — maybe even together. Then again, Mintz said, the giver may love the smell of sweat after a hard workout. This is why you communicate about your preferences!

To clean the vulva, Mintz advised to separate the labia and wash between them — with either water alone or mild, unscented soap — once a day. Don't use harsh soaps or douches, as that's not good for vaginal health. You can sext or talk in-person. Having a post-coital talk may be easier to muse over what you want to try next time, Reed said. If you're receiving, ask what they like or say what you'd like to do with them.Never, ever blow air into the vagina; it can cause a dangerous air embolism. Some people, however, enjoy when you blow on the vulva. Sex pillows have exploded on TikTok, and with good reason. As sex educator Tatyannah King wrote for Mashable, using pillows as props can increase both pleasure and comfort in bed.

Eva II is innovative, to say the least. Its groundbreaking design is made for hands-free clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex. For those who aren’t aware, the clitoris becomes highly sensitive during sex, so giving it some extra TLC when the moment strikes can do wonders for your orgasms. But those who are inexperienced or perhaps uneducated may ask: How should someone perform cunnilingus? Unlike the Nugget, there are options out there made specifically for sex. For a sleek yet sturdy option, I tried out Pillo by Dame, a sex toy brand expanding into other sensual products. Pillo is soft yet firm and built to support you and your partner in different angles. My partner and I use Pillo every time we're at my place. It's just as mind-blowing an addition to bedroom activities as a sex toy, in my opinion, and there's no motor to be found.Cunnilingus can be daunting for beginners, said Dr. Chelsie Reed, author of Sexpert: Desire, Passion, Sensations, Intimacy, and Orgasm to Indulge in Your Best Sex Life, as it's not usually taught but is a matter of trial and error . Reed, who has a PhD in psychology, research and evaluation, said we can do better than that. You don't have to be in a heterosexual relationship or have penetrative sex to enjoy Pillo, either. I'm a cis woman in a relationship with another cis woman, and Pillo has changed the game for us.