Men In Love

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Anyhow, the book is ok if you're lonely on a weekend and want to pretend you're doing something intellectual while keeping yourself company. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. Here begins one of the most highly charged (and misunderstood) themes in male sexuality: homoerotic emotions.

Nancy Friday, better known for her writings on female sexual fantasies, turns her attention to the opposite sex in Men in Love. Adult men being sexually attracted to and having sexual fantasies about girls below the age of majority, including pubescent girls.

Besides expecting fantasies that focused on different psychological elements, I also expected there to be a lot about exploring relationship dynamics in the fantasies, but it was almost entirely just about wanting to do the physical act itself, or remembering doing it. Instead of a range of sexual fantasies from gay men which would be no less fascinating and complex as the fantasies of straight men, we get an essay on the psychological underpinnings of homosexual identity. A majority of the men in this book don't even act out their fantasies or the fantasies are linked to experiences that they wished went "another way" so to speak.

Consequently, in the long pre-sexual years she has no chance to develop the association between a naked man and the erotic.She gave them a legitimate arena where they could share their "secret gardens" -- the hidden and forbidden but nonetheless real and true.

It is an old Freudian model that relies upon familial conditioning to explain something that is as indelible as the color of one's eyes. and forget her, their friendship and feelings of masculinity somehow reinforced at the woman’s expense. She has lost her ability to say no; has been unknowingly frozen into the position of an indulgent mother who allows the boy everything he wants.The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. Whether you agree with her methodology or thesis--fantasies are triumph of love over rage-- Men in Love is engaging, eye-opening reading, and not only for its sexual content. Though the author's explanations give the impression of being presumptuous at certain points, nancy tried to be objective in most cases and the book in overall is very riveting. However, there were some interesting psychological insights mixed in among the BS, enough to have made it worth reading.

Having this unconsciously remembered evidence of mother’s warmth and reassurance with him, he is encouraged to go forward into sexual pleasures. cite the ages of eight and nine as the time of their first masturbation, fantasy, or sexual sensation. Friday is pretty much unsufferable and I'd cheerfully string her up and apply a cane to her for making such idiotic assumptions about women, and engaging in quite some downtalking to men. Wanting to see, but afraid to look, men invent voyeuristic fantasies to heal a paradox, the conflict in themselves.

I'd give 3* for the content, but I increased to 4* because, like Nancy, I am a believer in a better future where both sexes can work together rather than in opposition, and this book - at least to me - proves that the men in this world have the necessary rudimentary contoure in their psyche to move in that direction. I didn't find much of anything in the book to be shocking, or even surprising, although not all of it was my cup of tea (or cup of pee in some cases). At birth infants are so undifferentiated that they have the capacity to receive erotic stimulation at every aperture of the body and any area of skin: from either or both sexes; from animals, food, objects, colors, currents of air, gradations of temperature.