The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now

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I like the overall message of the book: Your life, even at your twenties, means something, so make the best of it.

I have never met anyone who thinks an entire decade of their lives is for "practice," although apparently all of Dr. We become more interested in positive information, and our brains react less strongly to what negative information we do encounter. The Great Recession and its continuing aftermath have left many twentysomethings feeling naïve, even devastated. But that’s the first step that must be taken no matter how anxious or depressed you might be feeling over the subject: you have to take that first step. It constitutes a defense and justification for living a relatively focused, disciplined, and "conservative" life during your 20s rather than treating them like throw away years in which underemployment and meaningless relationships should be pursued.I was turned down from interesting jobs because I didn't have the experience, and turned down from crappy jobs because I was overqualified. The idea is that being active and focused in these regards during your 20s both makes you happier in the present, and sets you up for a happier and more autonomous 30s-40s-90s. Sometimes, Jay's writing feels like a mother/aunt/teacher who can just give you a look and you know you're doing something wrong. Our twenties are a time when the things we do--and the things we don't do--will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come. So don't be afraid of the fact that along the way you may need to make moves in your twenties or take jobs in your twenties that may not feel incredibly original or fantastic, but they may be just one part of a life that will ultimately be original and fantastic.

Jay’s advice: Stop focusing on glory or impressing other people, focus on what you want to do with your life.As a 20 year old young lady who is in the midst of figuring out what the hell I should really do with my life, why my romantic relationships have been debilitating, and what kind of academic and career choices I should carry out, I bought this on impulse to see if I could reek some beneficial advice from it. There are days and weeks and months and years, but no clear way to know when or why any one thing should happen. People who are especially good at something may have some innate inclination, or some particular talent, but they have also spent about ten thousand hours practicing or doing that thing.

Jay's recommendations, you will probably like this book and you will be able to feel pretty good / smug about yourself for a few years. Learn the hard lessons in your 20s, take the risks in your 20s, and embrace adulthood fully in your 20’s that you can have a firm foundation. I don't work for a big company with a retirement plan so I have to be in charge of my own financial future. The uncertainty behind that question is what makes twentysomething life so difficult, but it is also what makes twentysomething action so possible and so necessary. The rhetoric that "30 is the new 20," she suggests, trivializes what is actually the most transformative period of adult life.I just feel like the rest of the ideas she touches on sounded condescending and made me feel like I am not where I am supposed to be. I don't know that there's any particular reason to read this book if you're totally satisfied with your life, and I probably wouldn't recommend it if you've determined that a more conventional lifestyle (career, marriage, kids, house) is not for you because I doubt that the book would have very much to offer you. This is not a surprise because we live in a culture that prizes individuality, thinking differently and customization. As if I don't already feel the pressure from family and society to get a boyfriend, this book just added to it.

Some things I've done in my past that seemed like a waste of time turned out to be life changing while some of the decisions that seemed right were a waste of time (coughs, my fancy internship which looks great on my CV but gave me nothing). If you are still wondering how to get free PDF EPUB of book The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–And How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay.

Many have no idea what they will be doing, where they will be living, or who they will be within two or even ten years. This book makes you realise you are not alone in all the anxiety and uninformed decisions we seem to make. Picking your interests and talents and what you want to apply them to can create a story and a narrative that you bring to interviews and coffee dates.