Spanked to Tears – Chris & Aiden – Hanging Up – Gay Romance, Domestic Discipline

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It’s never been important to me, or a goal to make someone cry. Many don’t cry for a variety of reasons. Some have trouble letting go, some are embarrassed to cry, sometimes it just takes awhile for the spanker/spankee relationship to deepen. Then just knowing they disappointed their spanker may bring them to tears. I would never keep spanking after I felt it was enough, just to get someone to cry. Knowing when to stop is extremely important.

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The spanking should be fairly slow and there should be plenty of scolding or lecturing during the actual spanking. The scolding doesn’t need to be elaborate but should be steady, With us a lot of it is simple interrogation like “why are you being spanked” or I am spanking you because… I think slowing the spanking done engages thought and emotions more and the scolding can produce embarrassment or even shame which itself can produce tears. Then dad went to end of the sofa,where Julies butt was and gave her 10 full wind up swings of his belt with his 6 foot 4,250 lbs behind it!!Julies butt was striped red like a zebra and she howled like shed been stabbed. So all in all we get tears when the stars align and they are more likely to alight when it is relatively mild, fairly long in duration, incurs some embarrassment and triggers the right mood. My wife’s attitude toward tears was originally hugely important I don’t think spanking would have produced crying without that positive reinforcement. Besides being physically painful, spanking a child to tears can also teach them not to do something they shouldn’t, like hitting the furniture. It can also teach them to speak up and turn away when a parent doesn’t want them to. It will also teach them to resist when you tell them to. The key is to know when and how to use the spanking technique positively. It is best to spank when the child is expressing defiant behavior. Yes, I have ever been in very cold weather, because I have no money to buy the heavy and warm clothes...I tell a story too, but my story is not funny. My story is about pain. My story is about the messages spanking taught me—messages they never intended to send.

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This is because infants have limited understanding and cannot relate punishment with action. Instead, spanking a child is a cruel and ineffective method of correction. Even proverbs warn against a child being beaten with a rod. She is so very sure of herself—it becomes hard to keep a level mind. But I do. And I hold in the tears, though that is harder. The tears will come later, when I am alone. She’s almost yelling now, her voice full of emotion, my mom. Telling me that I am ruining my children by not hitting them as she hits hers. Telling me that they will end up selfish, miserable, and in jail, or worse. Despite the common misconception that spanking does not affect a child’s development. Recent research shows that spanked children tend to have lower IQs than children who were redirected through other guidance methods. Additionally, stress hurts the brain and may result in zero learning. Moreover, it is often accompanied by pain and humiliation, leading to a painful childhood. Spanking a child Thank you all for such thoughtful responses. I am reading you all to say that achieving tears either as spanker or spankee should never be an intentional goal...and I guess that is the case with my husband and I. If that happens...well then it does. I just know that the "release", or the more fancy word you much smarter ones use..." catharsis"...is something special to me...to "us" really. My husband tells me when I have those times of free flowing tears and sobbing...he feels very very close to me and feels like he shares the emotions I am expressing thru my crying. Often he cries with me. And I feel especially very very close to him as I cry into his chest or onto his shoulder or lap... or he kisses me while I cry things out and strokes my hair...cups my sore bottom in his hands. I know we all have concerns that perhaps crying is an indication of abuse, but we all cry for various reasons...not just physical or emotional pain...many of which you have mentioned in your insightful comments. We can cry for joy...for hurt...for love...for regret...for loss...for healing and release from guilt. I think when I find myself caught up in the emotions of our disciplinary relationship...for me my crying is perhaps a mix of all those emotions...and maybe some others I do not consciously even recognize. So...for me crying is not an indication of abuse brought on me. But...I realize this is largely due to the fact I trust my husband completely to understand my needs....avtrust he has earned and proven out.The uncomfortable truth (in more ways than one) is that symbolism and a dash of theatre only get you so far. It’s called corporal punishment for a reason. How important is it to reach or bring genuine tears or even heaving sobs from a spanking...from the spanker or spankee perspective?